Vulnerable Love

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Let’s start with a simple question: When do we not feel loved?

Some answers come quickly:

When we’re ridiculed or belittled
When we’re taken advantage of or used
When we’re dismissed, overlooked, or not taken into account
When we’re neglected—noticed, maybe, but not truly cared for

But there are other, less obvious ways we can miss love:

When someone cares for us, but never really connects with us
When we’re served, but not allowed to give anything in return
When we’re known, but not invited to know the other person

At its core, real love is vulnerable.

It doesn’t hold back. It doesn’t hide behind self-protection. It moves toward connection—and in that connection, something new and shared begins to grow.

This is the kind of love we see in Jesus.

He became fully human and fully engaged with people. He allowed Himself to be misunderstood, rejected, and hurt—and yet He kept loving. How? Because He lived rooted in the love of His Father. His wounds were met with healing again and again, which meant He could continue to forgive.

“We love because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)

That love didn’t become safer over time—it became more vulnerable.

Jesus began His ministry in the wilderness, stepping into the unknown. He lived without security or a place to call home: “Foxes have dens and birds have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay His head.” (Matthew 8:20)

He opened His heart in the Garden of Gethsemane—to His friends and to His Father. And ultimately, He walked the road of accusation, suffering, and the cross.

The Good Shepherd became the sheep.
The Son of God became the Lamb of God.
The All-Powerful became the meek and willing sacrifice.

Jesus didn’t hold Himself back. His love was fully vulnerable.

So it’s worth asking ourselves:

Do the people around me feel vulnerably loved by me?
Do I really seek to understand them?
Do I let them see and know the real me?

Am I willing to love from the place of love I’ve received from God—even when I’m misunderstood, hurt, or rejected?

Let’s resist the urge to size people up before we love them.

After all, God didn’t do that with us.

Vulnerable Love

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