Becoming a Spiritually Attentive Friend
Have you ever felt like people aren’t really listening when you speak? Maybe they’re nodding, but their eyes wander. Or they respond in a way that makes you wonder if they heard you at all. Chances are, their minds are elsewhere—thinking about their to-do list, waiting for their turn to talk, or simply distracted.
What’s especially frustrating is when someone answers based on what they think you were going to say, not what you actually said. It’s as if they checked out of the conversation early, filling in the blanks with their own assumptions or opinions. Sometimes people are more focused on delivering advice than understanding what’s truly being shared.
But Scripture reminds us:
"Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak." (James 1:19)
Listening Is a Gift—One We Can’t Get Back
Your full attention is one of the most valuable gifts you can offer another person. Time is limited, and when you choose to spend it truly listening, you're giving something that can never be reclaimed. So why not make it count?
Jesus modeled this beautifully. He was fully present with people, tuning in to their hearts and stories. And He invites us to do the same. Through us, He wants to extend His Kingdom—one conversation, one listening ear at a time.
Listening with Discernment
Would you like to be used by God—not just as a good listener, but as a discerning one? When we listen well and remain open to what God may be revealing, we can become instruments of encouragement, healing, and truth.
Spiritual discernment comes through two powerful practices: deep listening and active prayer. It’s not just about hearing words; it’s about seeking God’s wisdom in the moment. Discernment brings together divine truth, real-life circumstances, and God’s perfect timing. It's wisdom in action.
When we listen prayerfully, asking God for insight as we hear someone’s heart, we position ourselves to be used in profound ways. This is how truth in love is spoken—not from the head alone, but from a heart tuned to God’s voice. (Ephesians 4:15)
A Call to Reflect
Take a moment to reflect:
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How are you doing as a spiritual listener?
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Are you truly present when others speak?
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Is there a way you can grow in how you listen?
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Is God bringing someone to mind who might need you to listen more deeply?
You don’t need to have all the answers. But your willingness to listen—with love, humility, and prayer—can make an eternal difference in someone’s life.
With you,
~ Coach Tom
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